There have been many experiences in my life where I feel like I’ve gotten an education. Obviously in University and then in my Master’s degree. But also outside of the ivory tower. Forexample in the four years between high school and college I joined a no defunct NGO and travel the world providing free conversational English classes for students.
This was an awesome choice by me, even though my parents were less then enthuised…but if they were not going to support me then they also couldn’t tell me what to do. At least that was my twenty year-old reasoning. So off I went to France, Thailand, China and Bosnia. Picture this a small-town girl from the Prairies at the tender age of eighteen traveling and living in France THEN in Thailand. Then more travels, such privilege and honor. That was an education and one I’m not likely to forget.
But there was a period of time after my studies that I was not expecting to be so hard. And that was parenthood. Which for me was unexpected because by that time I was a bit older, accomplished and overall a independent person. But parenthood slapped me upside the face and sat my arrogant ass down and gave me (and is still giving me!) lesson after lesson.
I think it first starts off the restructuring of your brain while you’re pregnant. Pregnant brains literally shrink. So quickly after conception I felt like I became dumb. And luckily that continued until birth and afterward /s
I really should have known that caring for a newborn was going to suck, but nowhere on my radar was there any information about it. Hollywood let me down. Netflix too. Newborns are trickly because they’ll all over the place. But some of them can my like mine was, and absolutely refused to be put down and also mine is/was extremely sensitive. Needless to say there was no chill at all at home with a newborn. Which was unexpected.
I should have looked into postpartum care more, or even childbirth classes like this site offers. I was completely over my head and it was not a fun time. Coupled with the fact that overnight I became a primary caregiver to an extremely small human. I was not prepared. Even three years later it finally seems like I’m coming out of a haze and still don’t have my feet solidly on the ground.
But yeah, during that time I was no good for exact names/dates/etc. but I could tell you exactly how many bowel movements my little one had and their consistency. Even now I can exactly recall how my lo slept and ate. But specific words in specific circumstances? Nope.
So dear readers, if you want to have a baby for god’s sake get educated about the process. Find a childbirth education class, better yet get yourself a birth and postpartum doula. You’ll thank me later.